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Online Dating vs Traditional Dating

In the right hand corner, pound for pound, the dating heavyweight champion of the world—- Traditional Dating! In the left hand corner, the up and coming, looking to become champion, online dating! HA! Not even close, but it gives you a vision none the less. Online dating vs traditional dating, what’s better? What’s easier? Which is best for me? Let’s get to the cold heart facts and truths about each.

First, while technology is certainly a thriving force for online dating, traditional dating has took advantage just as well. In fact, it allows our dating company to perform online to get men and women to meet face to face. In order to cover the pros and cons of each, I had to step back. I had to give way to the thought of possibly using online dating to find a partner. Not easy to do in my position but for the sake of this article, sure I will.

Online Dating And Dating Websites

There’s no shortage of online dating websites, they litter the internet like trolls. I know… easy on the online dating. Check. But in all seriousness, online dating is everywhere. The most sought after is online dating for millionaires. Sure, your typical gold diggers and cougar hunters prowling the database. Who wouldn’t want to marry a millionaire? CHECK PLEASE. Ok, enough with the jokes, point taken.

Online dating does have its advantages. You can meet others from the comfort of your home, from the privacy of your bedroom. Heck, there’s not much you have to go out for today anyway. You can pay the bills at home, shop from home, work from home, so who needs the world? I always felt that there’s a personality behind most that date online. In most cases, dating has been a bad experience for them. And I found out that this is a pretty big percentage.

Is it ok to date online? Sure. Do you have to be careful? Absolutely. Ever hear or watch Catfish? Wonder why it was called that? Truth be told, you do have to be careful. You have to be protective of your personal information and your heart. So for those of you that want to date online, here’s some tips;

  • Never give someone your personal information (social security card, bank cards, checking account, ect.)
  • Meet this person face to face before you get serious
  • Doesn’t hurt to Google and open Facebook.
  • Always be alert, be on your toes for anything suspicious
  • If it sounds too good to be true, it usually is.

 

Traditional Dating And Meeting Face To Face

No one enjoys a broken heart. No one enjoys being took advantage of or preyed upon. That is a life within online dating. I feel it’s ok to date online but it has to be brought to traditional dating. You should always meet that person face to face before getting serious. Never make any exceptions.

Now, traditional dating (in my opinion) is the way to go. For one, you can’t feel that chemistry between two people without being face to face. I didn’t meet my wife online, this was 14 years ago. Online dating was just a thought, very few websites and platforms back then. When I first met her, day one, I knew ladies and gentlemen. I knew she was the one. An incredible feeling it was, self-pride, utter joy. It was amazing.

I don’t think I would have felt that meeting her online. Scratch that, I know I wouldn’t. It was that instant chemistry, instant feeling of happiness, an emotion I hope all of you share and experience in your life. You deserve that.

Online Dating And Traditional Dating Can Work As One

This could be a serious route to take. If you meet someone online, request to meet face to face. If they refuse, I advise you to let them go. Don’t get to attached, trust me. There’s too many ways we can record one another, so there’s technology that makes connecting face to face possible. Again, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

If you’re struggling to meet the right person (the main reason singles choose online dating) consider talking to a matchmaker or date coach.

We all want to be loved and feel accepted. If you’re serious about online dating, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. In the end, it will always cause you trouble. Everyone is beautiful, you’re beautiful. Don’t ever forget that.

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Sport Daters: Enjoy Dating But Not Relationship Ready

Sport Daters:  Enjoy Dating But Not Relationship Ready

by: Chris Feliciano

Published: May 14, 2015

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In dating there are two types of singles. Some have purposely prepared themselves for someone by attending cooking classes, getting themselves into shape, traveling the world, and reading the latest top selling book. For some it’s a natural process of self-development and dating is more focused on eventually sharing their life with a special someone. It’s similar to someone being ready for the interview and the job, but not ready to build a career within the company. We now live in a society that’s addicted to three words: instant, convenience, and choices. Whether it’s browsing for your favorite show on your favorite streaming service or at home workout DVD, we want things easy. Unfortunately it is no different when it comes to dating. Some appear as the perfect candidate for the most eligible Bachelor of Bachelorette, but are missing the extra “it” factor that takes them into commitment and/or marriage. Commitment takes a certain grit and reality that may seem uncomfortable to some.

 

The exciting times of meeting your new date at a gala or charity event have now been replaced by nights of serving Pepto Bismol to your better half. The flirtatious eyes and sarcastic comments of the first date are now replaced with a laundry list via text messages. Nights of picking out your newest outfit will become nights of yanking on your favorite sweats and picking out a Red Box DVD.  This is the reality of dating that becomes a relationship and for some this is a precious thought, while for some it feels like a prison term.  It is mainly men that get a bad rap for thinking of dating as a sport, but women are just as guilty. The sport daters will disguise their intentions but are only equipped for the sprint and not the marathon. For these singles playing the game, it seems like it’s never game over.

 

The best way to tell if someone is indeed a sport dater or looking for something a bit more committed is their energy during the first 1-3 dates. Most are consistently flirty, charming, or full of creativity when they are first meeting someone but beware past the third date (approximately). If there is still a consistency of consideration and invested feelings, then they truly do care to see progress between BOTH of you and not just their own selfish needs. Keep in mind that the rush of dopamine is supposed to lower as both start to get use to each other and acknowledge that things are moving into more exclusive territory.  It is completely fine if 4 hour conversations start turning into 15 minutes, again as long as there’s still mutual interest. If after a few dates it seems that the energy levels are extremely down and the flirtation has almost all but disappeared, it could be a warning sign. It could mean that this “show” can only be maintained for a certain amount of time and then the real person shows their face. When the show is over the real person is revealed as nothing more than an artificial person who is afraid to open up and fully express who they are.

 

The chase of attraction and validation wears off when things become too “complex”, but it is in these complexities that we grow as people. We don’t just grow as individuals but also as a united team that has earned the trust and comfort of each other. It is that comfort that should never be confused for boredom; relationships can and should still be dating. They can return to the eye contact during dinner that made them fall for each other or pretend they are “hooking up” when in reality they live with each other.  Creativity, inspiration, and passion should never be forgotten during a relationship – take full advantage of trust you both have.

 

For those that are sport daters but duds at relationships, take a step back and listen to yourself in silence. Is the excuse of being picky really a sign that you fear success in a relationship? Do you fear time might be lost so why invest the energy and emotions? Maybe you are just addicted to the same options that run rampant in this society and apply it to your dating life. Both sides should stay aware of each other and themselves. You can easily trick yourself into seeking a relationship and become your own worst enemy, or better yet a sport dater can one day find love. Regardless of your approach when it comes to dating remember to stay positively genuine and most will take care of itself.