Top 5 Reasons Dating is Like Fitness
by: Chris Feliciano
Published: March 30, 2015
- Cheat Meals/Wrong People – The cravings start creeping up after two weeks of heavy dieting and working out. It’s the same feeling of you being celibate for the past few months in inner-protest for chasing the wrong people, but you want a “cheat meal.” Suddenly you’re binging down Margaritas after not having any sugar or alcohol for a few weeks and you conclude the night with an uneducated yet fun member of the opposite sex. Just like food you tried to fight it off with a bit of self-discipline inevitably had your dating version of pizza. You’re only cheating yourself with that “meal” be it fitness or dating.
- Changes Take Time – If you’re working on burning the rest of the fat in time for summer – it takes time. You must understand that your body takes time to evolve into a six pack, bicep bulging, and toned selfie taking machine. Those same changes also affect the dating world as you realize your current state of being and where you want to be when it comes to being socially prepared to date the quality you seek. There is a theory of “overload and adapt” in the fitness world, which in dating means a newly single person should slowly but surely get back into the scene until they are comfortable with it. Once they are comfortable with themselves, they can challenge themselves to new heights by attending singles events or going after some quality admirers. Doing it the wrong way compares to jumping into a fitness contest with only a few weeks of training, again take your time.
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- Lifting/Dating Too Heavy – Swiping on your Tinder app for hours or going on endless nights binging at the local Happy Hour is comparable to grabbing the wrong weight at the gym or running more miles than you should. You may hurt yourself and it will end up making you take time off, time off from the gym or dating leads to missed opportunities. I often discuss what I call with clients a condition I call “dating fatigue” for those that are fed up and take a hiatus due too being burned out of the endless dates and apps they have to react to.
- Sex Driven – Nowadays dating is so much like a workout in that similar brain chemicals are released. Some treat it like a chore to put on clothes and meet someone for dinner, as they are about getting into gym clothes for a quick workout. The payoff of making the effort to workout or on a date include the release of serotonin, testosterone, dopamine, and other excitement chemicals which can lead to libido. It’s a similar effect to two people “hitting it off” and having dating chemistry which in turn can lead to libido. There’s no wonder you see so many half clothed gym selfies with hashtags such as #teamripped #summerbodiesmadeinwinter. Fitness and dating is the mastery of sex transmutation (if you’ve read enough Napoleon Hill you’ll know this last reference).
- Journey Not Destination – How many couples have you seen let themselves go after they’ve established that they’re in a relationship and/or married? It’s the same concept as couples who no longer date and are relegated to Netflix marathons on the couch and walking the dog. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you end the dating process, continue to excite your relationship with different activities and interests. Just because you’ve reached your target weight doesn’t mean you stop working out, you continue to challenge your body and go beyond the horizon. It’s great for your body’s as well as your relationship’s health!
I’d love to hear below on other reasons 6, 7, and 8 on how dating is related to fitness. Alternatively, comment with ways you see dating as NOT related to fitness. I hope you continue to make “gains” in the dating world, no supplements needed.